A MomsLikeMe poll asked moms if they would rather have a smart child or a social child that was good with people. Many moms weighed in and said the would like to have a smart child. Many others said that it didn't matter if they were smart or not, that if they couldn't manage to navigate the social world the would never get to use their intellect and would be lonely and sad adults.
I asked my son, who was in the room, what he thought. His response was that he would like to be smart, of course, and that if he was, he would be smart in all areas in life including how to deal with people.
Sounds pretty smart to me, and I think he communicated his thoughts quite well.
Showing posts with label the S word. Show all posts
Showing posts with label the S word. Show all posts
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Thursday, February 25, 2010
The S word
1)I want a natural approach to socialization for my kids. I don't want to seek out friends for my children. I want them to find them on their own.
2)I don't want to limit my children to playing with kids the same age and gender as my kids. That doesn't seem natural to me. My friends aren't all the same age as me, or gender. As adults we don't limit ourselves to only having friends that are exactly like us.
3)Diversity is a beautiful thing. It makes life interesting and it keeps a relationship exciting.
4)Kids need to learn how to not get along for a while and then how to work things out. It is a life skill. I'm not talking about a bully/victim situation here. Sometimes you do need to just walk away from a relationship, but you will never know how to identify a toxic relationship if all relationships are viewed as toxic.
5)I have a friend. We don't agree on everything. We are not the same age. We do not have the same number of children and our children are not the same ages. We get along and our kids do, too. They don't get along perfectly. I enjoy watching them navigate the bumps that they encounter, though. It helps them all to grow as people. It helps them to learn how to be tolerant of others, a lesson that many adults could use.
2)I don't want to limit my children to playing with kids the same age and gender as my kids. That doesn't seem natural to me. My friends aren't all the same age as me, or gender. As adults we don't limit ourselves to only having friends that are exactly like us.
3)Diversity is a beautiful thing. It makes life interesting and it keeps a relationship exciting.
4)Kids need to learn how to not get along for a while and then how to work things out. It is a life skill. I'm not talking about a bully/victim situation here. Sometimes you do need to just walk away from a relationship, but you will never know how to identify a toxic relationship if all relationships are viewed as toxic.
5)I have a friend. We don't agree on everything. We are not the same age. We do not have the same number of children and our children are not the same ages. We get along and our kids do, too. They don't get along perfectly. I enjoy watching them navigate the bumps that they encounter, though. It helps them all to grow as people. It helps them to learn how to be tolerant of others, a lesson that many adults could use.
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